Wrote this word down while working on something else, and it stuck with me. I think there might be something very important in it.
Most people talk about training imparting "confidence". I'm not really a fan of that. Confidence is pretty easy to instill, but it can just as easily be false confidence. I've had plenty of moments in my life where I was confident right up until I got utterly smoked. Tony Blauer points out that there is a great difference between confidence and competence, and that the latter is far more desirable than the former.
So I rarely try to instill confidence.
Competence is good.
Resiliency might be better.
"Able to recover quickly from misfortune; able to
return to original form after being bent, compressed, or stretched out
of shape. A human ability to recover quickly from disruptive change, or
misfortune without being overwhelmed or acting in dysfunctional or
I'm a pretty firm believer in the idea that good training improves resiliency. Not just physical resiliency, but emotional and psychological resiliency. This is pretty obvious in the martial arts (arguably (very arguably), a large portion of martial arts training is about "recover[ing] quickly from disruptive change"), but even strength training can teach some lessons about resiliency, both physical and psychological. Coming back to struggle with a challenging lift or exercise can build as much resiliency as another round of pad work. Honestly, I'm convinced that many of the lessons of the martial arts can be found in strength training, though possibly not all of them.
It might be interested if our training, particularly our martial training, was more open about the need to develop resiliency--to recover from bad situations--rather than focusing so much on being good or perfect. Certainly, there are some systems that put more time into this than others (the PDR/SPEAR system does, as does a chunk of Rory's material).
Lot of stuff to think on right now.